"Hating Other People", by David G. McDivitt
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Subject: Re: bursqe versus diplomacy From: "David G. McDivitt" Date: Wed, 8 Mar 2000 21:43:13 -0600
In my life I have often been short on tact. Numerous times I have found myself resenting those who are proficient politically. The last few years I have done better, and I continue to improve. When I hated people for their suave persona, all I would do is set myself up to show my ass. Many times I sabotaged what I could have obtained, simply because I did not know how to get along with others. Each time this happened, I would view in retrospect how foolish I was. If I enter a new environment with apprehension, the nervousness and insecurity will cause me to pay too much attention to silly things others do which don't really make any difference.
All I can say is that social skills are necessary. By no means am I perfect. Maybe some of the retrospection I've had of my behavior has begun to have effect. I have learned to accept the fact some people are better at social skills than I am. If they are better at it, then they deserve whatever reward. The fact they do well DOES NOT leave me out in the cold. The fact they do well DOES NOT mean there's nothing left for me.
I got tired of hating other people. Though I say that, there are still times when I find myself doing it. If I'm lucky in those times I will REMEMBER to think. I will remember what a "cut off my nose to spite my face" attitude did for me in past, and I will know not to set myself up again.
In summation I will say there is nothing to be gained by hating other people. Saying a crass attitude is justified for whatever reason; call it realism, pragmatism, logic, or what have you; cannot discount the fact that hate is hate, and resentment is resentment. If I hate people it will eventually come out in my speech and behavior, and I will not do well in whatever social environment as a result.
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